tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18703704.post116256866796416158..comments2023-06-25T04:44:11.145-07:00Comments on One Hundred Little Dolls: Popularity Contest100LittleDollshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08149407280133225570noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18703704.post-1163713894223954042006-11-16T13:51:00.000-08:002006-11-16T13:51:00.000-08:00Oh right - him. Yeah, confident hetero vibes just ...Oh right - him. Yeah, confident hetero vibes just come off that post of his in waves, you know?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18703704.post-1163563367533268872006-11-14T20:02:00.000-08:002006-11-14T20:02:00.000-08:00Take heart, I initially wrote that in response to ...Take heart, I initially wrote that in response to "an irritated heterosexual." :)100LittleDollshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08149407280133225570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18703704.post-1163558063744704292006-11-14T18:34:00.000-08:002006-11-14T18:34:00.000-08:00"A warning: you might have to dodge and parry some..."A warning: you might have to dodge and parry some heterosexual privilege in the comments."<BR/><BR/>Might? MIGHT? I am insulted. ;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18703704.post-1163489527476543032006-11-13T23:32:00.000-08:002006-11-13T23:32:00.000-08:00After all the "superman versus impossible odds" an...After all the "superman versus impossible odds" and "godlike commander husbanding total domination" fantasies, I have to say the "being brave enough to kiss other boys in highschool" might be humbler but it hits a lot closer to home. After all, I haven't wasted a good portion of my life trying not to repel an alien invasion, no offense Gordon.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18703704.post-1162697315581325392006-11-04T19:28:00.000-08:002006-11-04T19:28:00.000-08:00A-and-men. Thanks so much for sharing that, tekan...A-and-men. Thanks so much for sharing that, tekanji. <BR/><BR/>Only with friends and some co-workers have I been able to have conversations about how words work and when they have homophobic and racist connotations. When I get outside of my comfort zone, forget it, it's way too dangerous.<BR/><BR/>Yeah, any person who uses the word "gay" freely and knows that they're not comfortable with anything queer still wouldn't own up and call themselves homophobic.100LittleDollshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08149407280133225570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18703704.post-1162607853613780302006-11-03T18:37:00.000-08:002006-11-03T18:37:00.000-08:00It doesn't surprise me at all, frankly. I've had c...It doesn't surprise me at all, frankly. I've had conversations with a lot of people who use "gay," "homo," "fag," etc. as insults to players in games. These are people who, even after I told them it makes me uncomfortable, refused to stop when in my presence. Even when they <I>knew</I> I IDed as queer.<BR/><BR/>But you know what they told me? "I'm not homophobic." They pulled out the "gay friends" argument. The "those words are used in a different context" argument. They waxed on and off about how they support gay marriage and blah blah blah.<BR/><BR/>Sad thing? I was one of them, once. I argued that there wasn't a connection between words like "gay" and "bitch" with their origins. I ignored the way that those words would make me feel, and responded with just as much vitriol. <BR/><BR/>Until one day I realized that <B>there is a connection and it does matter.</B>. I am a woman and I am queer. When words that are used to reinforce my second class status in society are part of the verbal landscape of games it <I>does</I> hurt. When people find out that I am a queer woman they <I>do</I> treat me differently. And, most of all, my ability to be just another person in the game, to have the same ability as the any other player to just <I>have fun</I> (which is what games are for), is diminished because of it.<BR/><BR/>Getting the people who use those terms to see that, however, is not a battle I have been able to successfully win. The only thing I have been able to do is leave after it gets to a certain point. Which sucks for everyone.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com