First, Bonnie Ruberg has an interview with Brenda Brathwaite, a sex games developer, at Gamasutra. My favorite quote from the article:
Not only is there a place for [sex in games], it's actually a reason many such
games are developed. They allow players to experiment with sexuality in a safe
way.” In addition, though Brathwaite admits the vast majority of adult content
is developing with straight men in mind, certain games offer chances for crucial
female involvement, such as “MMOSVGs and cybering in MMORPGs,” where there is a “strong female player presence.”
Over at Utopian Hell, the issue of sex in massive online RPGs and sexism in video games is directly addressed. A quote:
The video game industry as of late has been talking a lot about making video
games more “mainstream”. Until games stop catering to pubescent fantasies of hot
girl-on-girl action, that just isn’t going to happen.
Make sure you check out both of the articles.
What concerns me the most of sex in video games definately has nothing to do with "OMG! What about The Children!" Rather, has more to do with the intense focus on male heterosexuality. Just like in books, TV, movies--what have you--male het. sex is the default. And you know what? It's boring, sterotypical, and reactionary--and there's still a long way to go. We'll only see a change in how sex is represented when women cease to be "the other" and when heterosexuality is no longer the only accepted way to illustrate sexual passion in entertainment.
I realize this is idealistic. But I can dream, right?